Dysfunctional Families?

Dysfunctional Families? Unsatisfied Families

Dissatisfaction is a suffering, we constantly do not go from desire to desire and great emptiness On this occasion I want to share with you a topic that seems super important to me, which is a constant in meetings in consultation with family.

We have that dissatisfaction comes when our expectations are very high, you are not satisfied with anything you do, that’s where comparisons begin, wanting the lives of others and that generates negative emotions, such as anger, bitterness, frustration, anxiety, fear, distress among others.

What happens to the guides, the parents of a home who are dissatisfied, in general, if the mother is dissatisfied, it is obvious that the father is too. This results in reluctance, apathy that comes hand in hand with I DON’T LIKE WHAT I’M DOING, I’M NOT HAPPY WITH ME!!, I DON’T REALLY KNOW WHAT I WANT, I don’t have dreams, aspirations, I don’t connect with my partner (there are no sexual), I do not connect with my children, neither at work nor socially, this leads to family chaos, parents do not self-regulate their emotions and think that their children self-regulate, this anguish and apathy are transmitted to their children, and it begins
education from control, authoritarianism, These couples do not care that they have a nice family, because they are dissatisfied, parents who are, but absent does not
transmit fullness or joy to their children, it only gives them what is necessary to live, they want only one thing NOT to be there and it is a battle between both and
they harm all the members of the family.

Behind a dysfunctional family there are dissatisfied parents, behind children and adolescents with disruptive behavior there is a dysfunctional family. Children want to draw attention to something and one way is to carry out these behaviors.

For the boys it is very important to feel safe and protected and we as coaches must transmit security to reinforce self-esteem, it is mandatory to be consistent with parenting, to be an example and model of our children, Albert Bandura’s social learning, children learn through observation therefore the social environment is important. The dynamics that exist at home, the tranquility that is transmitted in the home, where there is a moment of important bonds for their development, where they can grow in an environment that generates trust, joy and not pointing out or criticizing, where parents teach their children to self-regulate their emotions starting with themselves, it is naive to think and ask not to yell when the parents are the first to yell.

In conclusion, the best mental health that youcan give your children is for them to see you smile, if possible, out loud.

Where parents become aware that as a parent you must provide a safe and happy home where time is quality.

Apart from establishing limits and rules, it is also necessary to help strengthen self-esteem and show unconditional love, but starting individually, you cannot give what you do not have.

If you want your children to be successful and achieve their dreams, start with you father to achieve your dreams. It’s time for them to get out of the drama and be victims and complaints.

I always say happy parents happy children!! For this reason I want to give you these recommendations to you father or mother who read me:

In conclusion, the best mental health that you can give your children is for them to see you smile, if possible, out loud.

Organize your priorities.
Take time for yourself.
Acknowledge your emotions and find space to
work on it.
Be kind and empathic with yourself, avoid blame and judgment.
Avoid comparisons, recognize your strengths
and work on it
Your sexual satisfaction is very important.

Remember: Hope is the dream of the awake man. ARISTOTLE

Yosemir Arias
Clinical psychologist.
Therapies in family dynamics
Cognitive behavioral therapies
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